Self-Love isn’t Selfish, it’s Essential

Let’s talk about something we often avoid: loving ourselves.

It’s not selfish. It’s not indulgent. It’s necessary.

In fact, it’s the foundation of everything else in life. I’ve learned this the hard way.

There was a time when I put everyone else’s needs before my own. I thought that’s what love was—sacrificing myself for others. But over time, I realized I was running on empty. I was giving so much to others that I had nothing left for myself. And guess what? That didn’t help anyone, least of all me.

Self-love isn’t about being perfect or having it all together. It’s about showing up for yourself, even when it’s hard. It’s about setting boundaries, saying no when you need to, and prioritizing your well-being. It’s about recognizing your worth and refusing to settle for less than you deserve.

When you love yourself, you save yourself. You save yourself from heartache, from toxic relationships, from burnout, and from the endless cycle of seeking validation from others. You become your own source of strength, and that changes everything.

So, if there’s one piece of advice I could give my younger self—or anyone, really—it’s this: Focus on the work of loving yourself. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. Because when you love yourself, you create a life that’s aligned with your values, your joy, and your purpose. And that’s the kind of life that feels like home.

In my next post I’m going to write about some practical ways you can infuse self-love into your life on a daily basis. Until then, take good care of yourselves dear readers!

-A